Bullying: Shared Values

Consider what it is that you want for the children in your home, school or community. From each pair, think about whether you lean more toward A or B:

A. I want children to expect others to solve their problems for them.
B. I want children to learn to solve their problems by themselves.

A. I believe children will develop self-confidence by learning that others will solve their problems for them.
B. I believe children will develop self-confidence by learning to solve their programs on their own.

A. I want kids to grow into adults that blame others for their own feelings and problems.
B. I want kids to grow into adults that take responsibility for their own feelings and problems.

A. I believe children need to be sheltered from hardship in order to develop resilience.
B. I believe children need to experience hardship in order to develop resilience.

A. I want children to be “thin-skinned” so they will be easily hurt and upset.
B. I want children to develop “thick-skin” so they can easily repel life’s stings.

A. I want kids to feel hurt by insults.
B. I want kids to be immune to insults.

A. I want children to take themselves so seriously that they get upset whenever anyone makes fun of them.
B. I want children to know no one is perfect, and to be able to take and make jokes about themselves.

A. I believe being an informer is a good way for children to get others to like, respect and trust them.
B. I believe being an informer is a good way for children to get others to despise them.

A. I want children to believe that that freedom of speech is a mistake and should be eliminated from the Constitution.
B. I want children to cherish living in a country that guarantees freedom of speech.

From Professional Learning Board’s online continuing education course for teachers: Bullying – The Golden Rule Solution